Navigating your first Christmas as a mum

The stockings are hung, the tree is twinkling, and here you are – experiencing your first Christmas as a new mum. While Instagram might paint pictures of perfect family moments, the reality of celebrating with a baby can be both magical and overwhelming. Between the sleep deprivation, the constant feeding and trying to maintain some semblance of holiday cheer, it's easy to feel like you're barely keeping your head above water.

Even though my son is now 14, I still vividly remember that first Christmas. It definitely didn't go as planned! Our usual 3pm Christmas dinner was out the window, clashing with my son's nap schedule. And when we finally did manage to eat, he cried pretty much through the entire meal. I think I managed two bites of turkey, if that!

Of course, the grandparents wanted to come and stay with us to experience the 'magic' of baby's first Christmas, which, while lovely, definitely added to the stress levels. By the time I put him to bed that night at 7pm, I was exhausted. I lay down next to him and promptly fell fast asleep, missing out on any festive evening fun.

Looking back, it was a chaotic and somewhat comical experience. It definitely wasn't the picture-perfect Christmas I had envisioned, but it was uniquely ours, and that's what makes it so special.

If this is your first Christmas with a little one, these tips might well help you enjoy your day that little bit more.

Adjust your expectations

First things first: let go of perfection. This Christmas probably won't look like the ones in your dreams. There might be baby sick on your festive jumper, your perfectly wrapped presents might end up as chew toys and your carefully planned Christmas dinner might be a microwave meal eaten with one hand while you bounce a fussy baby with the other. And you know what? That's perfectly okay! Embrace the chaos, laugh at the mishaps, and remember that this time is about creating new memories, not picture-perfect moments.

And don’t spend a fortune on gifts. My son was seven months old at his first Christmas and we went overboard. Fact of the matter is he was far more fascinated by the lights on the tree and the sound of wrapping paper crinkling, than any of the expensive gifts we’d bought him.

Simplify, simplify, simplify

This year, give yourself permission to scale back. Ditch the elaborate decorating, opt for simple meals and skip the stressful shopping trips. Focus on the things that truly matter: spending quality time with loved ones and creating special memories with your new family. 

Create new traditions

This is your chance to start traditions that will shape your family's future celebrations. Some ideas could be to read a special Christmas story every night before bed, buy matching festive PJs, take a photo on Christmas Eve of your baby by the tree. Things don’t have to be expensive. Our tradition, which started that first year, is to drive around on Christmas Eve and look at some of the well-known decorated houses. Even now as a teenager, he wants to do that, and I love that we started that way back then.

Find joy in the small moments

Amidst the chaos, remember to savour the small moments. The way your baby's eyes light up at the sight of the Christmas tree, the sound of their giggles as you sing carols, the warmth of their tiny hand in yours. These are the moments that make Christmas truly magical. 

There will of course be those moments when your baby tries to eat a non-edible present or has a diaper explosion during family photos. These "imperfect" moments often become the stories we cherish most. 

Managing family dynamics

Everyone wants to be part of baby's first Christmas, which can feel overwhelming. Before the holiday season hits, decide what you're comfortable with and set some boundaries. Explain that you're prioritising your baby's wellbeing and your own need for rest and relaxation. Most people will understand and respect your wishes. 

Don't be afraid to:

• Set boundaries around visiting times
• Keep nap schedules sacred
• Say no to events that feel too much
• Ask for help when you need it
• Create quiet moments just for your immediate family

Don’t forget about you!

It's easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of Christmas preparation but remember to prioritise your own well-being. Sleep when the baby sleeps (even if it means letting the dishes pile up) or enjoy a Christmas movie. Treat yourself to a festive hot drink (even if you do need to reheat it several times). Light a candle (our Baby candle has top notes of Lavender to help you relax) and read a book or practise some meditation.

I found wearing something a bit special on the big day really made a difference to me. Having been on maternity leave and living in leggings and sweatshirts for seven months, having an excuse to put on a nice dress – even if it was only for display in my living room – was a real mood booster. It helped me feel more festive and like myself again, not just 'mum'. Even if you're not going anywhere, I encourage you to dig out something that makes you feel good. Whether it's a sparkly dress, a cosy new jumper or even just a touch of lipstick, taking a little time for yourself can go a long way in lifting your spirits and making the day feel special. 

Practical tips for survival

1. Shop early or online: Midnight feeding sessions are perfect for online shopping
2. Simplify gifts: Consider a family Secret Santa to reduce present pressure
3. Plan around baby's schedule: Host gatherings during baby's happy times
4. Pack smart: Always have a change of clothes (for both of you) at family events
5. Document mindfully: Take photos but don't let Instagram pressure steal your joy

Bonus Tip: Stock up on Cradle & Tonic goodies to pamper yourself and your little one this Christmas. Our handmade candles and skincare products are the perfect way to unwind and de-stress during the festive season.

Remember, there's no "right" way to do Christmas as a new mum. Whether you're maintaining every tradition or creating entirely new ones, what matters most is the love you share with your little one. Years from now, you'll look back on this first Christmas with a full heart, grateful for every messy, beautiful moment.